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  • Part I: IT BEGINS
    • Chapter 1: Facing the Problem
      • What is Sex?
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    • Chapter 2: Getting Programmed
      • We Love You But….
      • The Culture
        • The Culture of Violence
          • Where Babies Come From
        • The Culture of Control
          • Defining Reality
          • White Supremacy Culture
          • The Toxic Brew
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          • My Romance
          • What’s Love Got to Do With It?
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            • Lovesickness
        • The War of the Sexes
          • The Knack
          • The Womens’ Liberation Movement
    • Chapter 3: Biology’s Clout
      • Psychoneuroendocrinology
        • The PEA Cascade
        • Aging and Sex
    • Chapter 4: The Consequences
      • Am I a Masochist?
      • Buying the Victim Role
        • Intimidation
        • Am I My Craziness?
        • Buying the Dynamics of “F**ing”
      • Coping with Masochism
        • The Awful Question
        • Bartky’s Answer
        • Feminist Practitioners Answer
          • Marcus’ Split Self
        • Non-practitioner Feminist Masochists Coping
        • A Hard Look
          • The Panacea of Consent
          • Damaging the Social Contract
          • Psychological/Spiritual Issues
            • Perverting the Erotic
            • Addiction
            • How Far Domination?
            • The Energy of Tantra
            • Mortification
            • Catharsis
            • The Political is Personal
            • Escape
        • My Own Coping
      • My Quest for Romantic Love
        • Persephone Regrets
        • Romantic Love?
        • My Bête Noire
        • The Evolution of Mr. Right
        • Open Marriage
      • Avoidance Giving Up
  • Part II: CHANGING IT
    • Chapter 5: Healing the Culture
      • Struggling Toward Compassion
      • Picking It Up by Myself
    • Chapter 6: The Art of the Self
      • Creating Reality
      • Selfing
      • The Cage
        • Shifting Focus
        • The Illusion Fades
        • Out of the Cage
      • Right Ego
        • Learning Right Ego
        • Anger
        • Beyond Projection
        • Lysistrata?
        • Recycling Hurt
    • Chapter 7: Reframing Religion
      • My Religion is Kindness
      • Finding the Goddess
      • Walking with Mr. Right
    • Chapter 8: The Practice of Body
      • Deeper
      • Dancing to the Beat
      • Laughing Black Wolf
    • Chapter 9: Relationship
      • Relationship Expectations
      • Still Needy Kids
      • When He Raises His Voice
      • Choice of Words
      • Beyond Polarizing
  • Part III: OWNING SEX
    • Chapter 10: Hunting Tantra
    • Chapter 11: Sex I Want
      • The Ground Opens
      • Beyond Al-Ith
    • Chapter 12: Arousal
      • What Turns Me On
      • The Seventh Wave
      • Cosmic Shivers
      • Delightful Magic
    • Chapter 13: Orgasm
      • Gift of the Wind
  • Part IV: CHOOSING
    • Chapter 14: Centering
      • Ironic Wisdom
    • Chapter 15: Direction
      • I Choose Life
    • Chapter 16: Re-vision
    • Chapter 17: No Wrap
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Persephone's Choice

Persephone's Choice

Re-visioning the Victim Goddess

Tag Archives: masochism

New Section: Am I a Masochist?

Posted on March 9, 2017 by Kay

The central issue that started this book. A fundamental source of hating myself.

Getting this on the Web has taken much struggle. With my terrible health. With tricky html. With my fear of exposure. But above all, with my need to speak painful truth, in hopes it may help others.

Here it is.

Posted in Author Progress, Website Progress, Witnessing | Tagged fear, masochism

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The concept of rights changes women’s conceptions of self, allowing them to see themselves as stronger and to consider directly their own needs. When assertion no longer seems dangerous, the concept of relationships changes from a bond of continuing dependence to a dynamic of interdependence. Then the notion of care expands from the paralyzing injunction not to hurt others to an injunction to act responsibly toward self and others and thus to sustain connection.

— Carol Gilligan

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