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Part I: IT BEGINS
Chapter 1: Facing the Problem
What is Sex?
Persephone Calls
Chapter 2: Getting Programmed
We Love You But….
The Culture
The Culture of Violence
Where Babies Come From
The Culture of Control
Defining Reality
White Supremacy Culture
The Toxic Brew
“Sex”
The Culture of Romance
My Romance
What’s Love Got to Do With It?
Limerence
Lovesickness
The Knack
Chapter 3: Biology’s Clout
Psychoneuroendocrinology
The PEA Cascade
Aging and Sex
Chapter 4: The Consequences
Am I a Masochist?
Buying the Victim Role
Intimidation
Am I My Craziness?
Buying the Dynamics of “F**ing”
Coping with Masochism
The Awful Question
Bartky’s Answer
Feminist Practitioners Answer
Marcus’ Split Self
Non-practitioner Feminist Masochists Coping
A Hard Look
The Panacea of Consent
Damaging the Social Contract
Psychological/Spiritual Issues
Perverting the Erotic
Addiction
How Far Domination?
The Energy of Tantra
Mortification
Catharsis
The Political is Personal
Escape
My Own Coping
Persephone Regrets
Avoidance Giving Up
Part II: CHANGING IT
Chapter 5: Healing the Culture
Struggling Toward Compassion
Picking It Up by Myself
Chapter 6: The Art of the Self
Creating Reality
Selfing
The Cage
Shifting Focus
The Illusion Fades
Out of the Cage
Right Ego
Learning Right Ego
Anger
Beyond Projection
Lysistrata?
Recycling Hurt
Chapter 7: Reframing Religion
My Religion is Kindness
Finding the Goddess
Chapter 8: The Practice of Body
Deeper
Dancing to the Beat
Laughing Black Wolf
Chapter 9: Relationship
Relationship Expectations
Still Needy Kids
When He Raises His Voice
Choice of Words
Beyond Polarizing
Part III: OWNING SEX
Chapter 10: Hunting Tantra
Outrageous Woman Meets Sassafras Man
Chapter 11: Sex I Want
The Ground Opens
Beyond Al-Ith
Chapter 12: Arousal
Delightful Magic
The Seventh Wave
Cosmic Shivers
Chapter 13: Orgasm
Gift of the Wind
Part IV: CHOOSING
Chapter 14: Centering
Ironic Wisdom
Chapter 15: Direction
I Choose Life
Chapter 16: Re-vision
Chapter 17: No Wrap
References
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